Might try to clean threads again and/or put something on top of the little rod/spacer you put down in where the injector seats before you screw the bolt into the retainer. I wouldn't go crazy, maybe just a flat washer, you don't want to ruin the threads by only just having it started when it begins to pull it. If a washer makes it come up just a bit, but it still stops, then remove the bolt and add another washer or two to the stack and tighten again. It really shouldn't be that hard, at this point it's just the o-ring stuck to the head that's holding it.
You could use an impact wrench (with a little care).
Alternatively you could just remove the whole chamber, retainer and all. Have you drained the coolant all the way down?
I believe it is far more likely that the problem is with the chamber or the copper sealing washer underneath it than the retainer o-rings.
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